What To Say In Your First Emails On Hookup Sites
The most important things you can do are:
- Keep your introductory message SHORT. This is just to break the ice, not to give her your life’s story.
- Make it funny. Women react very strongly to men with a strong sense of humor, so make sure they know that’s YOU.
- Include a “test.” This can also be called the “hook” or the “lure.” It’s just what it sounds like—make sure there’s a reason for her to respond, like a question, an invitation, or a dare.
In case you really suck at this, here are the absolute worst emails that will get the WORST responses (no response) every time.
Bad Email #1: The Needy Guy
“Hi, I’m so happy to find a girl on here that looks so perfect! Please email me back, I’ll probably just die if you don’t, lol.”
Bad Email #2: The Obvious Misogynist
“Yo, I know you wouldn’t leave me hanging like the other bitches on this site. Thank god you don’t look like one of those women that friendzone guys all the time when he pays for everything. Hit me up.”
Bad Email #3: The Trying Too Hard
“Hey cutie! Take a look at my profile, I won’t bite…unless you’re into that. But I don’t accept bites from angels, like you obviously are, WOW.”
Do not send one of these kinds of emails. They make you look sad, desperate, or like a terrible human being.
Fortunately, there ARE some kinds of emails that basically guarantee a response. Here are some kinds that all but GUARANTEE a reply from about 90 percent of the women they were sent to.
Good Email #1: The Flirt
“Whoa, are you seeing what I’m seeing? You like John Carpenter films, I like John Carpenter films. You like organic gardening, I like organic gardening. You like tall guys, I like….women who like tall guys. Let’s call that a 2.5 out of 3. Here, complete this sentence, if you would be so kind: I like red wine from California, you like…?”
Good Email #2: The Playful Dare
“I thought it was too good to be true to find someone in my area as hot as you, but you’ve made me rethink a lot of things today. Wanna play a game? I bet I can send you a naughtier photo without taking ANY clothes off. Whatever you’re wearing right now, even if it’s pajamas.”
Good Email #3: The Confident
“I’ll be honest, I wasn’t expecting to find a girl like you on here—you don’t seem the type at all. Your profile says you like to dance. What kind of shoes do I need to buy, jazz, tap, ballet?”