The Romance is a dying art, and many women complain that it’s falling by the wayside. But that doesn’t mean that they want it in full force on a first date. If you are going out with a woman for the first time you may be considering buying her flowers to make a good impression. While this can be a good idea, it can also backfire horribly.
Reasons To Bring Them
Women like the thought that even though you haven’t got to know them yet and things may not go as planned, you were at least thinking of trying to be courteous. Flowers are a nice gesture and generally tell a girl that you’re not a complete jerk. Plus, they totally make a woman feel special, even if she doesn’t know you. Flowers can also be a great way to break the ice because she will be more receptive to you and open to talking. This is about where the positive side of flowers on a first date ends.
Reasons Not To Bring Them
Nothing kills a first date quite like allergies, and a lot of women have allergies to flower. Puffy eyes, sneezing, snotty nose, sometimes a trip to the ER if allergy meds are needed, can all kill a date faster than the dying flowers in her hand. Also, what if you pick a flower she hates (hey, she may not even be a flower girl at all) or that is associated with bad memories? If you can, get this type of information ahead of time. If you don’t have that luxury, it’s best to leave it alone. You could always go with candy, if you feel you need to get her something, but you will face the same dilemma of possible allergies and not knowing what type of candy she likes.
Plus, getting a girl something on the first date can seem a bit cheesy and desperate, which are not great first impressions. You may also have to answer what led you to buy that type of flower or candy, and if it’s because an ex liked it you can bet your date is ruined. No woman wants to hear about your ex or that you still think about her that much. Even worse can be that you bought these things because your mom likes them! Finally, what if the date doesn’t go well? Now she’s stuck with flowers form a guy she doesn’t like and you’re out of the money.