Adding sex toys to a casual encounter can be a fun thing for both you and your partner, but there is a proper way to introduce them into your fun. If you just show up for a hook-up with a bag full of dildos, you may get rejected and your partner may be offended or turned off. Follow these simple tips to introducing sex toys into the bedroom with your casual fling.
Ask About Them On Your Date
Whether this is a first time date, a third date, or someone you’ve known a while, ask about their experience with sex toys and if they would be open to the idea of using them. If they say no, you know that sex toys are off the table. But if they say yes, ask further questions about what they like, what they want to try, and if they’d be willing to try anything new with you.
Buy A New One For Your Encounter
Never bring a used toy or an opened toy to an encounter. Not only is this unsanitary (no matter how many times you’ve cleaned the toy) but it’s just not good sex toy etiquette. If you want your lady to have sexual encounters with you and toys, buy her a new one that’s just her own. This will make her feel more comfortable and she will have a better relationship with the toy that’s being used on her. When she feels comfortable with the toy she will be more likely to use it.
Let Her Use It First
If she’s never used a toy before, let her have fun exploring with it. She will get a better understanding of how it works and you will get to watch her do things to herself, which is always sexy. It will also show you what she likes so that you can do those things to her with the toy. Once you’re able to show her how pleasurable toys can be she will be open and more willing to trying new toys in the future.
Listen To Her Desires
If she has a specific fantasy, listen to what she has to say. If you can help her fulfill her fantasy with toys, strive to do so. This will help her open up to you sexually, and once she is comfortable with you and knows you are willing to please her, she’ll be more willing to please you. Finding a man who can blow their minds in bed is something all women dream about, and if you can be that man for her, you too will find yourself having a few things blown.