If you’ve been flirting with a woman online for several days or weeks and she’s ready to meet you in person, you may be a bit nervous, wondering what you can do to impress her. That old saying of “be yourself” is useful here because she already knows enough about you and likes you enough to go out with you, but if you still need some help, check out these tips.
Where To Go
Go somewhere that isn’t too noisy, has nice lighting and good service. Don’t take her to a loud noisy college bar or club on the first date because there’s no chance to talk. By the same token, don’t go anywhere too fancy where the menu is in another language. If she suggests going to a bar or club after dinner, roll with it.
What To Wear
Business casual is the best look for first dates. Chances are that this girl went out and bought a new outfit or borrowed something from a friend, spent all day picking out the right thing to wear, how to do her hair and makeup, and she will show up well put together. You don’t want to be there in ratty jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers because she’ll feel overdressed and uncomfortable. Wear a clean, nice shirt, and for the love of all that is good do something with your hair besides put a hat on it. Sneakers are okay, but semi-nice dress shoes would be better.
On the flip side, if you’ve both decided to meet somewhere for a first date like a mini golf course, dress casual, just make sure you look clean and and not like you just rolled out of bed and threw on the first thing you tripped over on your bathroom floor.
How To Act
Act like you want to be there. Leave your phone in your car or in your pants and don’t answer it if it does go off unless it’s an emergency call from work or a family member. Nothing says, “I’d rather be anywhere else right now” quite like being on the phone while on a date. If you have to text your buddy, excuse yourself to the restroom and do it there, or at least out of eyesight from your date. Be polite, be courteous, make jokes, relax and have a good time. If you ask her a question, pay attention to the answer she gives you; it may help you win brownie points with her later on if all goes well.
What To Say
If you’ve already been chatting with her online, you should know her well enough to have a good conversation. But there may be some things you shouldn’t talk about on your first live date. Jokes are ok, but don’t make them offensive unless that’s her style. Don’t talk about exes, and don’t talk about marriage and kids. These things make a woman uncomfortable on the first date.