There is nothing worse than going on a first date and it goes badly; unless she wants a second date and you don’t know how to make it better than the first one. A bad second date will just mean misery for the both of you, so veto that by changing things up a bit to make it a comeback success.
Assess What Went Wrong
First, figure out why the first date went wrong. Were you both bored? Or did you spill something on her new dress? When you know the turning point that made it a bust, you can figure out to (hopefully) not let it happen a second time in a row.
Choose A Different Venue
Choose a different place to have your second date, and that doesn’t just mean a new restaurant. It means skipping a restaurant altogether if that’s what you did the first time. You don’t want her sitting there reliving the memory of the awful first date if she’s in a similar environment. Take her out of that space, both physically & mentally and introduce her to something new. Take her to a museum or a park and know her better.
Bring Her Flowers
After the first date you should have gotten some inclination if she likes flowers or not. If she does, bring her some because it could be a great way to apologize for the fiasco of the first date, even if the issues were not your fault. A girl loves it when a guy is romantic to her, and the second date is a great way to be romantic in a small way. If flowers aren’t her thing, think of something that is and surprise her.
Ask Her More About Herself
If she wasn’t talkative on the first date then get her talking. Don’t just ask her things like “what do you like to do for fun” because you could always end up with the answer of “a lot of things” or “I don’t know.” None of these are productive. Ask her, “Do you like to go to museums?” or “Do you like ice cream?” because these are direct questions that have direct answers. Even if she simply says yes or no, you can expand on that by telling her if you like them and why. This is a way to get a conversation going and learn more about one another.
Sometimes, no matter how much you try and no matter what you do, you just can’t have a good first date. If you want to make the second date better, try a few of these tips, but remember that the second date may be just as miserable. Be prepared for the fact that you either won’t recover from the first date or the two of you simply don’t have enough chemistry to have a good dating relationship together. If the second date is also a disaster then don’t push for a third and just end the misery.