You finally had a great casual encounter with a woman and you’d like to see her again, but you want things to remain casual. You’ve expressed this to her, but she’s beginning to get attached and you’re feeling smothered. Breaking things off with her is becoming more and more appealing, but you don’t know how. Sometimes, being as blunt as possible will get the job done.
Honesty is always the best policy, so just tell her you enjoyed her company but you never wanted more. If you were honest with her from the start, remind her that she knew about your feelings before the two of you became involved. Ask her to respect your decision and tell her that if she cannot then you will be forced to end the relationship. Also tell her that you will cut off all communication with her if she becomes hostile or aggressive to you. Let her know your thoughts and she should respect them.
If she cannot seem to understand that you don’t want to be with her, you will have to let her go and ignore her. Anytime she tries to communicate with you, just ignore it. If you feel that she is becoming harassing, block her number and emails. Don’t even keep her on your social media sites because she could try to get to you through your friends if you ignore her there. Also ask your friends not to be friendly with her because it may encourage her. You will have to remember, though, that your friends can make their own decisions and may want to remain friends with her. You’ll need to respect that choice.
Start Seeing Someone Else
You could always start seeing someone else to give her the hint that you two are truly going to be nothing more than a casual fling. There could be issues with this plan, as she may become jealous and could try to start a drama with your new hottie. Warn your new lady about this ex so she knows what she’s getting into from the get-go. If the new girl is not comfortable with the situation, you can either look for a lady who is or take legal action against the spurned ex-date. Unfortunately, there are times people have to file a restraining order against casual flings that take it too far. If you feel this is a route for you, talk to the new woman in your life about it, before proceeding.
If the woman you’ve been sleeping with wants more than just sex, tell her you don’t feel the same and that won’t change. If she won’t listen to reason, insist that the two of you can have a talk about the relationship, and if she still won’t listen you may need to just ignore her. Sometimes the issue with casual encounters can be that one person doesn’t want to let go. This is always a risk in such relationships.