Going through a divorce can wreck your self-esteem, not to mention your life. If you are ready to continue in the dating world and get back in the saddle, you may be a bit hesitant to start. Having gone through an ordeal like divorce may have you wondering if you can date again without being completely jaded by the process, but there are ways to get you up and out.
Remind Yourself You Are Worth It
After divorce you may be thinking no one wants to date you, or you feel like you are a damaged good. This isn’t so and it may be beneficial to remember that 48 percent of marriages in the last 10 years have ended in divorce. You are not some freak, and you are not alone. Divorce happens, even to good people, and it doesn’t pack the same weight it used to have.
Remind Yourself Not Every Woman Is Like Your Ex-Wife
Whether she cheated on you, was abusive to you, or just got tired of you, not every woman is going to be like your ex-wife. The next time you start comparing a woman you’re interested in, to your ex, just stop and tell yourself that this is not the right move to make. Every time you compare a woman to your ex, you are limiting that woman and the role she could play in your life. Letting go of the past, isn’t going to be easy but the past doesn’t have to ruin your future with another woman.
Remind Yourself You Deserve Love And Fun
It can be a hard thing to decide if you have been through a divorce, but are you really ready for a relationship or do you just want to have fun? If the answer is that you just want fun that’s ok. No one will tell you to fall in love again, soon after a divorce and if you find yourself being judged by people, tell yourself that their opinions on your life do not matter. This does not mean that you should act like you are 21 and blow through your life’s savings to have a good time, but casually dating a woman is just fine.
Be Honest With Yourself And Your Dates
If you do go on date and it gets too serious and fast for you, let the date know you need to take things slow. Women respect and understand that more than you think, especially if she too is divorced. This is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of maturity and honesty and those are both things that gain respect.
If you are ready to start dating after divorce, remind yourself of these things and take it slow. You can have fun and meet women, but you don’t have to push yourself into a relationship again, especially if you are not ready for that, yet.